By Alyssa Gregory

R-E-S-P-E-C-T: Do You Get It?

By Alyssa Gregory

RespectRespect is perhaps the most important element in any successful long-term relationship…and that’s what we want to develop with our clients and colleagues, and even our family and friends. As they say, respect is not given, it’s earned. And there are certain things you can do to get more respect from others, and increase your professionalism and likeability in the process.

Show It

We all know that we should treat others as we want to be treated, but sometimes we overlook that when we’re talking about respect. It’s definitely not a one-way street. One of the best things you can do to gain respect is to respect others by listening, and being courteous and compassionate.


Another way to show respect is by being open-minded. Be willing to afford respect to everyone you encounter, not just clients or those who may be considered in a position of authority, including their opposing opinions, differences and experiences that make them who they are.

Be Firm

Respect doesn’t mean always being agreeable. In fact, if you frequently sit back and let other people determine how to treat you, you will probably end up getting walked all over. And if you get into this situation, it can be a difficult one to get out of. To gain respect, especially in business, you need to be clear, firm and unwavering with your policies. Avoid making exceptions and stick to your guns (in a nice and tactful way, of course) in order to inspire respect from others.

Part of being firm and steady in your convictions is being able to make decisions and take a stand for what you believe in. Strive to be a decision maker who can make decisions without second-guessing yourself or showing doubt about the decisions you’ve made.

Encourage Others

Caring and emotionally investing in others in order to support their own success can also generate respect. Take time to focus on the needs of others and go out of your way to encourage, support and lend a hand when necessary. If you are truly concerned about the well-being others, you will put yourself in a position to be considered a strong, considerate and empathetic person, which can lead to increased respect.

Act Confidently

Having confidence will make it easier to do the rest of the respect-generating activities listed here. Because confidence is a result of having strong self-respect, you will live with a power that will draw people in and lead to gaining their respect. If you value yourself, your skills and your contributions, you will set the tone for respectful relationships.

What do you do to gain respect from others? What do others have to do to earn your respect?

Image credit: Cecile Graat

  • atsa

    Personally I work for fame first and than money. Any client who is too harsh or not respecting can never be long term client as good clients always maintains a balance so its better to softly communicate your message and try to make client cool but if still hot blows are forwarded towards you, than its better to stop working for that client otherwise it will results in decrease in confidence level.

    I always want to feel HAPPY & CONFIDENT when i see myself in mirror..

    Great article..Thanks for sharing…It will really helpful

  • For me, having professional respect for colleagues is all about how good they are at what they do. They can be cantankerous, rude, disagreeable and impossible to work with, but if they’re a genius programmers, a sickeningly talented designer, or a stunningly capable businessman, I feel respect for them.

  • I’d also have to strongly disagree with you on the issue of confidence. Confidence may come from self-respect, but (in my experience) there is often little or no correlation between a person’s self-respect and their respect for others. Sometimes there is, sure, but just as often than not, self-confidence is bullishness and arrogance.
    I would have 1000 times more respect for someone who lacks self-confidence but is genuine and caring towards others, than someone who is full of self-confidence but fundamentally selfish.

  • Self-respect never means that you are not respecting others…its simply a process of give and take.

    “Self-respect is the cornerstone of all virtue.” – John Herschel

    Atul Thanvi
    Web Designer

  • just…b

    Good Article. Such a basic concept that is all too often overlooked!
    Respect, professionalism and gratitude are some of the fundamentals that work the best in my design to client relationships. Egos are a big no-no in my world!! In fact one of my latest clients contacted me after reading several of my blog posts on that very topic and gave me the job. I was exactly the type of designer they were looking to work with. They have treated me well as I have treated them, gotten quality work from me and always paid on time and without question.

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