This is going to sound pretty harsh - But I guess this is what the forum is for, discussing things.
So, we each have our values, principles, and standards (not the Web type!) that we each hold dear to our hearts and stand up for them against anyone who opposes them and tries to take them away from us. Blah blah blah.
Let us say for example, a relative (close, or not-so close) does / says something that is totally opposing your values, principles, and / standards. They do / say something that, if it was any other person, you'd look at them with disgust and have some fairly negatives feelings, views, and opinions towards them from then onwards. I'm not talking about holding grudges here though. I guess what I'm asking is - Have you ever experienced this with any relatives? If you have, do you still feel the same negative way today as you did when this said event occurred? How do you interact with them knowing full-well what they've done / said in the past?
Again, I stress this isn't about grudges - It might not be something they said or did to you, but something they did / said that goes against your morales and so on. Something that doesn't even have any effect on you except for the feelings you have for this person. Do you show them less respect than you usually would do?
It's something that troubles me because I have experienced this, and, if this particular relative kept on doing and saying things that goes completely against my morales, principles, values, etc, I'm concerned that one day I won't like them at all, or love them as I once did. Have a think about it Or am I the only one :eek:?