How Self-Coaching Can Help You Create the Results You Want

I’m a believer in coaching as a way to get past obstacles, redefine your goals and create a plan for getting “unstuck.” It worked for me, and I frequently look to coaching when I face transitions in my business and professional life.

But sometimes, coaching isn’t realistic due to lack of finances, lack of time to dedicate to the process, or a need to see immediate results. In these situations, you may be able to benefit from self-coaching.

Self-coaching is taking control of your own actions through targeted, conscious thought and planning to create the results you want. Dr. Joseph Luciani, clinical psychologist and author of “The Power of Self-Coaching,” explains it like this:

Self-Coaching reduces all conflict (especially anxiety, depression, panic, and relationship struggle) to two words: insecurity and control. … By understanding how, because of habits of insecurity, you’ve gravitated toward a life of control (i.e., worrying, rumination, compulsion, fear, etc.) you’re able to understand exactly what needs to be done to eliminate psychological friction from your life.

My follow-up post goes into specific ways to get started with self-coaching, but let’s start by looking at some of the benefits of self-coaching.

It’s Free

As I mentioned earlier, one unmistakable benefit is that it’s free. Although well worth the expense if you have a coach who effectively pushes you to learn more about yourself and make decisions to support your goals, coaching can be expensive. If you can self-coach to get the results you want, you can avoid some of those costs.

It Can Be Quick

Because you’re not depending on anyone else, you can make the process as quick as you want it to be. The nature of coaching is process-based; it’s a steady progression based on your goals, individual situation and creating an environment of learning about yourself. That takes time, especially when you factor in the important step of getting to know your coach and allowing him/her to get to know you. No one knows you better than you, and self-coaching allows you to take advantage of that.

Plus…

Those aren’t the only reasons why self-coaching can be a great way to make changes in your life and business in order to boost your success or get out of a rut. Here are some others:

You maintain complete control of your own success.
You can gain self-confidence, determination and motivation by empowering yourself through self-coaching.
Self-coaching will eventually become an automatic response to challenges in your life, and can lead to increased success.
You will learn things about yourself you may not have consciously been aware of before.
Self-coaching can help you solve problems faster.
A self-coaching mindset can help you become a better mentor for others.

As good as this sounds, it can be difficult to get started with self-coaching, especially when you’re already in a situation of discord. My next post outlines some steps for getting started.

Do you use self-coaching to get past obstacles? Is it something you do consistently when faced with challenges?

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Frequently Asked Questions about Self-Coaching

What are the benefits of self-coaching?

Self-coaching offers numerous benefits. It empowers individuals to take control of their personal and professional development. It helps in identifying strengths and weaknesses, setting personal and professional goals, and working towards achieving them. It also fosters self-awareness, self-confidence, and resilience. Moreover, self-coaching can be done at one’s own pace and convenience, making it a flexible and cost-effective method of personal development.

How can I start self-coaching?

Starting self-coaching involves a few key steps. First, identify your goals and what you want to achieve. Then, assess your current situation and identify the gaps between where you are and where you want to be. Develop a plan to bridge these gaps and start implementing it. Regularly review your progress and adjust your plan as necessary. Remember, self-coaching is a continuous process of learning and growth.

What tools can I use for self-coaching?

There are several tools available for self-coaching. These include self-help books, online courses, podcasts, and apps. Additionally, journaling can be a powerful tool for self-reflection and tracking progress. You can also use various self-assessment tools to identify your strengths, weaknesses, and areas for improvement.

Can self-coaching replace professional coaching?

While self-coaching can be highly effective, it doesn’t necessarily replace professional coaching. Professional coaches have the expertise and experience to guide you through complex challenges and provide objective feedback. However, self-coaching can complement professional coaching by enabling you to continue your development between coaching sessions.

How can I stay motivated during self-coaching?

Staying motivated during self-coaching can be challenging. Setting clear, achievable goals can help maintain motivation. Celebrating small wins and progress can also boost motivation. Additionally, having a support system, such as friends or family who understand your goals, can provide encouragement during challenging times.

How long does it take to see results from self-coaching?

The time it takes to see results from self-coaching varies depending on the individual and their goals. Some may see changes in their mindset and behavior within a few weeks, while others may take months or even years to achieve their goals. Remember, self-coaching is a journey, not a destination.

Can self-coaching help with stress management?

Yes, self-coaching can be an effective tool for stress management. It can help you identify stress triggers, develop coping strategies, and build resilience. By fostering self-awareness and self-regulation, self-coaching can help you manage stress more effectively.

What are some common challenges in self-coaching?

Some common challenges in self-coaching include lack of clarity about goals, difficulty in self-assessment, lack of motivation, and difficulty in maintaining consistency. Overcoming these challenges often involves setting clear goals, seeking external feedback, celebrating progress, and developing a regular self-coaching routine.

Can self-coaching help improve my relationships?

Absolutely. Self-coaching can help improve your relationships by fostering self-awareness and emotional intelligence. It can help you understand your emotions, reactions, and behaviors, and how they impact your relationships. It can also help you develop empathy and effective communication skills, which are key to healthy relationships.

How can I measure my progress in self-coaching?

Measuring progress in self-coaching can be done through regular self-assessment and reflection. You can track changes in your mindset, behavior, and skills. You can also measure progress towards your goals. Journaling can be a useful tool for tracking your progress and reflecting on your journey.