For years I have been getting these annoying emails on my “friend’s” email list. These are jokes, videos and Christian messages. I never pay attention to them and find them annoying.
But yesterday did a “reply all” on his email list because I wanted him and his friends (who most I don’t know) to see a funny video of a dog.
Well my friend was furious and sent me a nasty email and nasty phone call saying “how dare I send his friends this video, and that I should have only sent it to him!”
Did I break some email rule? Was I not supposed to do a reply all but just send it to him?
Sharing stuff is good and a perfectly normal thing to do, but sending to “someone elses” friends list is probably a little over the mark. The recipients would probably see that the emails were associated with your friend, and your friend might not want to be associated with the contents of the email.
Don’t you have your own “friends list” to send to?
A better way would have been to send your friend the link then let him decide whether to pass it on to his friends.
I think you’re right. But my friend called and left a very angry message on my phone as well as an angry email. It was just a video of a dog peeing. Yes, it was my mistake. But he certainly could have handled it better.
If the recipients of an email are entered using CC: rather than BCC: then someone is eventually going to do a REPLY ALL and send an email to all of them.
That’s why you should never CC people on an email who don’t know one another in the first place. The blame when people get such a reply all email from someone they don’t know lies with whoever gave their email address away to strangers in the first place.
You didn’t do anything wrong. Ok, it wasn’t the wisest thing but it wasn’t wrong furthermore when you simply tried to share something funny.
Don’t misunderstand me, I would have never done it… Sending an e-mail to someone you don’t know is a bit dangerous, you never know how they will react and the are really weird people in this world. But it is your friend’s mistake to leave all addresses visible and there.
Your friend has been, in my humble opinion, a bit too tough. Maybe he was in a bad day… It is absurd to be upset for such a silly thing.
Edit the video with the dog peeing on your friend and send it again.
Indeed, this kind of reaction wants you to do something like this
Don’t give it a second thought. It is not worth it. There are real problems out there to be solved… spending time over something like this is a waste of time.
I’d start sending them out regularly - they might get fed up and remove you from their annoying email list.
I agree that the response from your friend was way over the top considering the slight error of cc’ing people rather than bcc’ing them. Assuming that this was the reason the friend was upset rather than just being peeved that you’d contacted people directly (which would be totally unreasonable).
I never forward on anything email related for that very reason, those kind of emails are usually baiting methods to try and grab a lovely big list of email addresses (you would be surprised how often spam can occur when your email address gets caught up in a forwarding scheme). I wouldn’t have yelled at you over the phone though… probably would have sent you a Skype call at 3AM in revenge instead
Yes there is - the rule is to BCC anyone who you want to make sure doesn’t get emails sent to them via the Reply All button - the OP’s friend broke that rule.
I would say it’s not like you were wrong. But if you are not having good experience then think twice. And find out the correct ways and manner. Otherwise go ahead with confidence…
Yes he does because you should have told him long ago to remove you from his mailing list and only email you when there is a legitimate need to and not include you in any of his mass emails.
By not letting him know you were annoyed, you were leaving the impression that getting his mass emails was OK with you, so you are the one who should have communicated what you felt.
