So I shouldn’t send that double box of chocolates and truffles?
Right Mike, you set the date for us yet?
It’s far too cold over there right now, so perhaps next summer 
I lie in wait.
if someone starts another thread about ROMANTIC THINGS TO DO FOR THEIR SWEET HEART, then maybe ill share with you all what i have planned for her wedding present.
its the bomb diggitty, and its not about WHAT im getting her, or how much it costs, but WHAT it symbolizes to her.
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Flowers:
Does she have a favorite flower? Roses are really overused. If she isn’t particular on the kind of flower, buy exotics or something like calla lilies. Or, how about a gourmet basket with wine or chocolate?
Perfume:
If she has a favorite perfume, you can buy the accessories that accompany it (i.e., lotion, powder, etc.).
Hobby:
Does she collect anything? Pay attention to what she likes (i.e., if you are shopping and she says, “Oh, I love that pair of earrings/purse,” then make a mental note).
Cooking:
Cook a nice dinner for her, or take her out to a new restaurant. Or, take her to the first restaurant you ever went to (if available).
Cards:
Cards (you have to write more than three words, guys) are always very nice, esp. when unexpected. When my husband went out of town last year for about four days, he hid cards in odd places (one for each day) and called me to tell me where to look. It was very nice; of course, he had sweet words in all of them.
Personalization:
Women love personalized items! See below (stuff like that).
Other:
Candles, body lotion, etc.
Note: It’s really doing small things consistently.
I could use a few tips from you guys
It’s good that people are acknowledging that roses and teddy bears aren’t always the magic bullet. They still work on some women, of course, but to me they’re just the obvious choice and prove that the guy doesn’t know enough about me to buy something or do something specific to me.
I’m usually won over by the homemade dinner (good thing I married a man who can cook!) or the well-planned evening/event. However, the longer I’m married, the more I realize how it’s the small daily gestures, not the grand romantic ones, that make me still feel in love.
I just do normal things… i dunno… lol
I was out of town for a few days, and when I came home to her I had a dozen roses in my hand…
Other than that, I try to compliment her every day, and let her know how much she really means to me.
-E ric
Oh I think I’m going to be sick. Ok that’s bitterness coming out instead. For all you die-heart romantics whenever I’m in a jam or am thinking about being a complete sweetheart I go to www.Lovingyou.com
[QUOTE=Troy1960For all you die-heart romantics whenever I’m in a jam or am thinking about being a complete sweetheart I go to www.Lovingyou.com[/QUOTE]hm, thanks!
It’s ridiculously expensive, but it works. Just make sure you’re not only 2 months into the relationship or you may seem a little forward ;). (no this is not from personal experience)
i read some where that there is some sorta ‘standard’ amount that a man must spend on his engagement ring.
something like TWO MONTHS pay?
anyone confirm this?
Depends on the salary, what kind of deal you can get, and how materialistic or not your girl is. It’s a generalization, and like all generalizations there are cases where it’s not true.
I spent what I could afford. I have never heard that you must spend 2 months pay…
****, if the girl loves you, chances are she will say yes, no matter how much you spend.
- Eric
:agree: And if she says no because you didn’t spend enough on the ring, then do you really want to be with her?
Amen!
Off Topic:
what did I say above to get stars… I guess my language is starting to get to me on the inernet as well… been a rough few days 
hm. salary => $$$
but the savings are $
she never has been a materialistic kind of woman.
neither of us beleive in divorce. we’ve already talk about THAT far in our future. we have always been 200% agreeable to OPEN COMMUNICATION. no matter how silly, serious, dangerous, painful, etc.
and i know wholeheartedly that she wont become a materialistic kind of woman. its more for the BLING actor i suppose.
haha, now that i realized how much 2 months worth is, her ring will cost more than my car.
LMAO
i could also spend what i could afford, but, this being the woman im gona spend the rest of my life with. i dont mind investing several Geez on a nice ring for her.
and TRUE, if she girl loves you, she will always say yes, no matter how small it is. how much you spend. how pretty it is.
again, id do it for the bling-bling rating.
i make more now that i have ever made in the past.
by the time a man marries a woman, he should already know HOW she will react.
if she is always about the nice car(s), how she looks in her hew outfit, over-spending on a new wardrove everytime the weather changes, etc etc
that alone should give a dood some insight to what the future holds for him.
but then again, if a man can afford to polish his trophy wife, then why not?
i know a few guys like that. women too.
it’s not a lifestyle i would want to lead. but to each their own.
Alot of people will get engaged with a smaller stone, and then after they have been married for some many years, get a beter, nice engagement ring… just how things work.
I wanted to marry steph, and all I could afford was a 1/2 caret total… so that’s what I bought.
- Eric