Buzzkiller Pedant Adult: “My sister and I”, you foolish child, not “Me and my sister”!
I have a feeling most of us have been on the receiving end of some such rebuke, leading to an unwarranted fear of the word “me”. People just don’t seem to want to use the word, avoiding it wherever possible. For example, people commonly say things like this:
He spoke to my sister and I
Just contact myself or another member
Both of the sentences above are crying out for a “me”! E.g.
He spoke to my sister and me
Just contact me or another member
In the first sentence, if my sister weren’t involved, we wouldn’t say “He spoke to I”, which demonstrates why this usage is wrong.
The second sentence demonstrates the growing misuse of the word “myself”. But what is motivating it? I reckon it’s a phobia of the word “me”. What do you think?
I’ve found that to be a common phenomena - people learn a rule and focus just on the rule but not where it is supposed to be applied. Then they end up using it in inappropriate places. It used to happen often in my math teaching experiences too.
So people don’t really understand that “John and me” should be “John and I” if its the subject of a verb, but “John and me” is perfectly correct as the object of a verb.
Indeed, yes, although I’m still convinced it’s even more than that—an actual fear of using “me”, because we’ve learned to think of it as “sounding wrong”. Perhaps it also other negative connotations, like being a “me-first” kind of person—or in other words, a selfish person.
Yes, sorry, I see what you are saying. Perhaps my first post wasn’t clear enough. In the first example, the kid was indeed wrong. I was just suggesting that because we sometimes use “me” incorrectly, we’ve somehow gotten the idea that we should never use “me”, which is a mistake. It would never be correct to say “Me and James will attend the grammar debate”, or “Me and my sister played a game!”