Hi, I'm not sure if it is exactly what your looking for but that is who I use after
spending a lot of time sourcing for software to build my site which was a bit complex in the way i had to set it up, But VLD personals seemed to do everything I needed it to. It was very easy to work with & beleive me im very new to all of this, also the VLD assist & support was very helpfull.
Its at www.vldpersonals.com
If you want to check my site out ts www.golfm8s.com its the first of my sports networking site, instead of just socials & daters, its built around players but also has the option for socials/Daters.