I heard an interesting conversation this morning on the radio about this very subject. One callers comment stuck in my mind the most and he was male. He said dating is all about gathering information about a person. Then you can cleary determine whether a person is right or wrong for you.
My husband and I dated only 6 months before taking the plunge. But this is exactly what we did (not knowing really). He didn't do things to try and impress me like most men do (lame, very lame). Instead he took a very forward approach and told me every little thing about himself including bad habits, experiences in his life, everything. And I did the same. We quickly learned after three or four dates our relationship was really going somewhere and we were without a doubt very compatible. Very simple and effective approach.
I also think women of today want and expect different things as opposed to women of my grandmother's generation.
Women at least imo don't want to be coddled by men contrary to men's belief. They want someone who can respect them, their independence, letting them have space when needed just as men want. And they certainly don't want to be treated like a man's mother or maid. Bad idea.
There are three things that make relationships thrive.
If you don't have the ability to give 100% to your partner, you are selfish. If go into a relationship with distrust based on past experiences, then you can't trust or be trusted. If you can't communicate with your partner, then you might as well throw your hands up and say forget it, which is what is one of the major causes of divorce today.
The biggest problem I see with men in the dating scene? You have a hard time letting go of the past, you fear committment, and confuse lust over love 95% of the time.
If you can't see the logic behind this, then I've got a sign for you.