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  • Me (ie. "My Control Panel")

    40 31.75%
  • You (ie. "Your Control Panel")

    17 13.49%
  • As long as it's consistent, it doesn't matter.

    26 20.63%
  • I avoid it (i.e. "Control Panel")

    43 34.13%
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    SitePoint Wizard silver trophy someonewhois's Avatar
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    You or me?

    Just a general question that just crossed my mind... do you refer to end users (on a website) as "me" or "you".

    I notice that SitePoint says "My recent posts" and "My SitePoint" etc.

    Your thoughts?

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    Personally I go with me and my.

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    Quote Originally Posted by someonewhois
    Just a general question that just crossed my mind... do you refer to end users (on a website) as "me" or "you".

    I notice that SitePoint says "My recent posts" and "My SitePoint" etc.

    Your thoughts?
    I avoid it if possible ("Recent posts" for example), otherwise I use me/my.

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    Quote Originally Posted by vgarcia
    I avoid it if possible ("Recent posts" for example), otherwise I use me/my.
    Sorry, I meant to add an "I avoid it" to the poll -- if you wanted to add it, feel free.

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    Quote Originally Posted by vgarcia
    I avoid it if possible ("Recent posts" for example), otherwise I use me/my.
    Same here.

    When you consider the phrase "View Private Messages". Can anybody possibily understand something else than "View the Private Messages that have been sent to you"?

    I try to avoid any specifics. But if I had to choose, I'd go for "you". I don't like Control Panels speaking for me, I prefer them speaking to me.
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    Quote Originally Posted by tetsuo shima
    When you consider the phrase "View Private Messages". Can anybody possibily understand something else than "View the Private Messages that have been sent to you"?
    Yeah. "View the Private Messages that have been sent to me".
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    I will go for the "Me". It has more personalized touch when you say "My Control Panel".

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    Either Me/My or completed excluded.
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    I like me or my also...
    Its more personal to the user...
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    I think your, because its as if the website is talking to you. If its my it could be the websites :P

    Just my logic.

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    Depends on what your offering...
    if you offer blogs , articles and reviews you would not say:

    My blogs
    My articles
    My reviews


    I would use:

    My content
    - blogs
    - reviews
    - articles

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    Avoid it for sure.

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    I feel like it depends of the site, and of what you are offering. Personnaly I like the me/my, but in a marketing way, when you are really 'talking' via your site, use you/your. But stay consistent in either way.

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    "User Control Panel"

    Avoid it. Use what I just posted.

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    Am I correct in thinking the whole "My" trend was started by Yahoo? (or at least popularized by them) ... I don't remember seeing it before MyYahoo made the scene. (Or was it MyExcite that came first? Something else?)

    Anyway, I would say it doesn't really matter as long as you are consistent, but personally, I tend to avoid either--I think the My and Your make your site seem more playful and I tend to want my sites more professional. Playful might work for your site, though.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Bleys
    Am I correct in thinking the whole "My" trend was started by Yahoo? (or at least popularized by them) ... I don't remember seeing it before MyYahoo made the scene. (Or was it MyExcite that came first? Something else?)
    I'd say it was Microsoft ("My Computer", "My Network Places", "My Music", etc.) that started the trend back in 1995 or so.

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    Quote Originally Posted by vgarcia
    I'd say it was Microsoft ("My Computer", "My Network Places", "My Music", etc.) that started the trend back in 1995 or so.
    Ah good call, I hadn't even thought of that.
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    most software goes for 'my', though as long as it is consistent people wil know what you mean...

    (on the other hand if M$ started it why not go for something completely different )

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    Avoid. Do we really need to explicitly notify them that they are going to look at messages that belong to them?

    If it can't be avoided, I'd prefer "you" tense. Something about "My" makes me feel like they think I'm six years old.

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    Our discussion

    Interesting topic.
    /* Ramble on here
    I usually use neither or at times "your". When my site is "talking" to users such as instructions, I use "you", eg. "enter your email" "change your password". But usually I just use impersonal., eg, "email", "password". I suppose using "my" could place the user in a mental position of ownership, and hence a sense of control. I think nothing of "My Computer", on my computer. But when I'm at a site, I don't really consider it as "mine". Just a thought, maybe using "our" would place the user in mental position of inclusion? Of course depending on how subtle the possessives are used and any give user, they may "clash" and seem awkward. I think usually this kind of thing goes un-noticed, kind of like a letter that starts of with "Dear".
    */

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    Me or My... Much more personal which in most cases is a good approach to take imo.

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    Consistensy is crucial, but I'd rather use "you/your". "Me" feels too personal for my own sake. Who knows, perhaps it's a cultural thing ...
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    i dont like software speaking for me. Or to me. In fact, I want software to just do its work, so in my own apps I avoid it.
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    I avoid it, worked under someone that was obsessed with adding "my ..." to a point where I now get annoyed when I visit sites that use it. For me it's become like manager-speak, so I try not to even say it.

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    I tend to avoid using it. There are cases where it can be suitable, but for the most part, it just takes up space.


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