i am desperately looking for a script that would tell me the full path to mysql on my server.
Do you want the full path to the client or the server?
For the server, type this at the shell:
locate safe_mysqld|grep -v man
That's the location to the script which starts the server.
For the mysql client, type this:
if you want the mysql path to connect to
otherwise, do what quinn said, and it should be in the same directory as safe_mysqld
the problem has been solved.